Life is rough.. it is messy. It is full of ups and downs. Some days are good, some days are great, some days are pretty bad … well more than bad … just downright crappy.
I am sure you have noticed that some people come through these tough times much easier than others, while others just never seem to quite make it back to where they were before the rough times.
We now know that resilience is the difference between those who recover and move forward from life’s adversities and those who don’t seem to be able to move forward. There are so many myths and misunderstandings about resilience.
First off, resilient people experience just as many of the yucky things in life that non-resilient people do. People who have a high Resilience Factor recover from the failures and setbacks in their life quicker than those who do not have a full Resilience Toolkit.
Those of us who do have a high Resilience Factor and a full Resilience Toolkit, feel that resilient people know how to go it alone, almost never give up, are always positive and upbeat. This far from the truth. People who show strength and courage in the face of adversity do NOT necessarily know how to go it alone, they do give up and they have many times when they negative and pessimistic.
One of the keys in a person with a high Resilient Factor characteristics is their understanding of “good enough”. People who are resilient know when to stop and enjoy what they have achieved. Whereas people who do not have a high Resilient Factor have yet to appreciate taking a moment or two to enjoy their achievements and when they stop they tend to find fault in their performance and focus more on their what they could have done better or differently and not in a good way.
People who are resilient use mindfulness as one of their strengths to help them enjoy life as it is whereas people who struggle with change are more likely than not to be disappointed by the idea that life can be better sometime in the future.
People with a Resilient Factor are continually rejuvenating their Resilience Toolkit. If you would like to know more about your Resilience Factor or how you can keep your Resilience Toolkit full check out my Resiliency for Life site or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.